I have my kids every other week, so of course that means they spend every other week with their M. I get the impression that D doesn't really "hang out" with W, although she does live there half the time. D and I do stuff together all the time. Some of the things we do I initiate, other things D initiates. When I occasionally talk to W and she learns of the things we do together, she will often make off hand comments about how she tries to get D to do stuff like that but she never wants to. This happens quite often. At my Ds play the other day, I was walking in and passed the cafeteria where the cast was warming up. I glanced over and saw a hand popping up from the middle of the students so I stopped for a second to check out what it was. My D had spotted me and was jumping to waive to me. Now, I should say that my D is sarcastic and a bit of a tomboy. For her to jump to waive at me like that made my heart melt. I was chatting with a friend a few minutes later and told them about it (W was sitting there too) and W mumbled, she never does that to me, she hates me. She said it in almost a joking tone, but I could tell by her expression that it hurt her feelings.
So, I don't really see W and D interact much, but I hear enough to know that they don't really hang out much. They do on occasion spend time together, but its obvious D tries to minimize that as much as possible. She has never REFUSED to see her, but she will go out of her way to avoid her if she can.
I'm not sure if S is actually Ws favorite or if its just easier to hang out with him based on Ds behavior towards her. S thinks W acts weird, but he just treats her like a little kid. He repeats himself to her so that he knows she heard him. If she says something weird or irrational he calls her out on it. He openly tells her no if she tells him something he doesn't like. Otherwise they get along fine. Its weird...neither of them EVER act like that with me. They are very well behaved around me and we get along great!
I hope your day is going well. You aren't giving us up for lent are you?
