Yeah I think that assessment is accurate about her not being as sensitive to my feelings and putting it ahead of hers on how she is feeling about having a new relationship. I can see that no doubt.
So, I think my feelings of disrespect are just stemming from my own battle with self-value and doesn't have anything to do with her. Still going to have a chat about following through on our agreements and making sure that the other parent isn't secondary to issues that affect the kids. That's the best you can do in this situation - everything else is outside of my control. I like how you phrased it to your exW that you trust and rely on her that she wouldn't bring someone in the kids lives that was terrible. I think you are far too generous in that, and we've seen some of the crazy stuff that the ex's have pulled here. But, I think it's a good way to proceed when there isn't that blatant disrespect. I'll probably use a version of that statement and approach it from a wider perspective than automatically assuming that her intent was to stick it to me.
Oh man! I feel so relieved and grateful at the same time. I need to take care of myself a little better
