No more denial, time to get to work

[MRay]

I've had very little contact with STBXW. Nothing beyond dropping off the kids. One thing I've noticed the last few times I've seen her is how terrible she looks. I'm not sure if it's her being stressed/sick/whatever or if I'm just seeing her differently now. She appears to have aged 10 years in the last few months. She's always looked young for her age, and that wasn't just my opinion, but now she looks every bit and more the 35 she'll be turning in a few days. Don't get me wrong, 35 isn't old, it's just that at 30 she was constantly confused for one of the high school students. No way that's happening now.