Also, the marriage counseling lady, I called her to make sure she has had experience in a MLC, with OM and wanted to let her know my hope is to reconcile and my wife says she is still interested in MC. I hope it isn't just words but she is really open to it. The lady said she has been doing this for 30 years and no judgement and we will work on it. She is trying ot push the date up a couple weeks to get us in mid-March instead of end of March to start.
I encourage you to not to MC right now. First of all, you have a lot of work on yourself to do first. I do not think you are ready. If you were to consult with someone like Dr. Phil, I honestly think he'd tell you the same thing. Get yourself healthy FIRST/
Second, MC is always a bad idea unless the WAS is committed to making the MR work. Your W is not there. I think you would be crazy to think MC can help when she is leaving "dates" with you to be with an OM. WAWs in particular are notorious for agreeing to MC so they can later tell people, especially their children, "we tried EVERYTHING, including MC."
Lastly, MC is pursuit and pressure. That is the last thing you want to apply to her right now.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
