My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 6

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I´m asking you what do you want from now on? Rebuilding bridges to a new MR takes patience. A lot of patience...you both need to be working on the same frequency.

I guess I want to see her actually working if she wants this. It seems like she is just ho-hum about it all. Do I say this to her? Bring it up in MC? I don't know..

Serious question- why?

I am worried she'll be upset, mad, or blame me for leaving her or something really stupid. I've always liked going out or over to friend's houses for dinners and/or drinks with friends. And weekend nights feels like the time you spend with your significant other.

Does your employer allow you to work remotely? Or would you be able to take vacation or an unpaid leave-of-absence?

I can work remotely or take as much vacation as I want and still get paid. I'm switching to self employment/new gig Mar 1. Got the LA trip scheduled for week of 4/8. Have some friends in San Diego too so I may make them take me in for a bit.

Steve, I'm not on the D path. The D path was totally off limits, I'm just thawing out the D path, thinking about it a bit more. But yes, I am afraid of leaving her alone.