Yorkie... so wonderful to see you on here again. It sounds as if you are in a good place. I am so glad for you. You continue to be one of the DB stars, IMO. I think it is that British practicality coming through. You and I share a similar mindset, I think. The desire to rise above and carry ourselves with dignity and respect. But no one is perfect and sometimes things happen that set us back for a moment but then, the next day, we are right back to it. You, like me, have a good support group and that is something to be very thankful for.
Our H's, on the other hand, seem to have a different mindset towards divorce. My H is pushing for it at lightening speed. I haven't quite decided why yet. IMO...either he just wants it done because he thinks his guilt and shame will magically disappear with the swipe of a pen OR he has told OW that we separated in May and he needs to maintain the façade to keep her around. I hope it is the first one but I know it is more likely the latter. As my friend said... If he was just doing his own thing and figuring himself out, why would he even care about the date? Makes sense to me but then I'm not him so I don't really know. It is in my best interest not to wonder about it too much though.
Your approach with your boys is so admirable. Many, many people would be happy their kids were mad at their dad but even though he has disrespected you and your family in every way, you rise above. Yet another thing that makes me think your H is a complete idiot. Feel good that you have done everything you could with them. It's up to them and your H now.
Anyway...work beckons. Much love to you and lots of long distance (((HUGS)))!!!
