We went axe throwing and that was really fun. I hope next weekend I can get up to her land with her and we can do some shooting. I know she really wants me to do.
Dawn just so you know, her telling J the patient hit on her is her playing a game/testing him.
Sounds good man though your con #1 would not go well with my personality lol.
I know what you mean about getting use to certain things. My date on Saturday is 5'10" I am use to 5'2"-5'5" not sure yet if it is a deal breaker for me. Hair color has absolutely no effect on me.
I know it's crazy. Yeah, I thought it was interesting how she brought it up. She wanted me to know both. I told her I dont get jealous unless it is flat out disrespect. I bet my aloofness and lack of blowing up her phone, etc. has had more of an impact than I realize.
Oh and I also didnt say anything about us being in a R either or who are you taken by or anything like that. When she said she was off the market I gave no response as if it went in 1 ear and out the other. I did joke with her a bit about the guy that hit on her though as she said he went to our gym and he always ogles her.
Dawn just so you know, her telling J the patient hit on her is her playing a game/testing him.
Tell J that! He was the one who said she doesn't seem like a game player and I simply asked why he thinks she is the one woman who doesn't.
And, following that logic, by the way, wouldn't your response of "Do you have a boyfriend I don't know about?" when she mentioned being off the market constitute similar game play? I'm just trying to understand what is considered game play and what isn't and I am totally fascinated by how men think. I think it is a good thing I'm no longer looking because it is exhausting. LOL
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Well this game seemed more innocent to me not mischievous. That was her way of telling me she really likes me, wants this to work while also letting me know other men find her desirable. Again.....I really want you to like me because others do.
And, following that logic, by the way, wouldn't your response of "Do you have a boyfriend I don't know about?" when she mentioned being off the market constitute similar game play?
More like playful teasing putting the ball back in her court. See IMO it was sorta a little rude for J just to ignore that statement because she was definitely expecting a response. The way I responded acknowledged that I heard her and put the ball back in her court to say "I was talking about you" or something along those lines if she was trying to bring up exclusivity. Then I would clearly ask her "are your saying you want to be exclusive with me?" You see direct and to the point and it's her idea.
Originally Posted by Dawn70
I'm just trying to understand what is considered game play and what isn't and I am totally fascinated by how men think. I think it is a good thing I'm no longer looking because it is exhausting. LOL
I have asked the same question on the board in regards to OLD. What does it mean when a woman says I have no time for games?
It can be exhausting! I am glad you found someone you can settle down with and be happy. I hope to have that happen again someday. Not sure I will ever marry again but hope to be in a monogamous relationship again.
I think it was a temp check. She probably wanted you to say, "me too" or something like that. Honestly...she seems like someone who is ultimately looking for an LTR but has been hurt in the past so is carefully picking and choosing her moments. I don't think of it as being game playing so much as it is being cautious about revealing too much of oneself too soon. People do love a challenge though so I get why there are often games being played. I really HATE the idea of having to do the dating thing again. There are just so many broken people out there. No offense to the people on here who are dating. I happen to think that anyone who is interested in DBing and available to support others is made of some good stuff. I'm more talking about the other people out there who are using it as some form of self-validation. Similar to "likes" on Facebook. So not interested.
