Your wife does not strike me as the type of person to blatantly disrespect you unless she has done stuff you have not written about. I dont see a pattern that exists as it does with many other members on the board. As with mine your wife has appeared to keep to herself.
I told mine I was disappointed as it was not what we agreed upon and I acknowledged that as their mom I trust that you would not bring just anyone into our girls lives. She then started to talk about him to me and I stopped her. I politely informed her that I did not want to discuss or know anything about him unless it has to do with my girls. She has respected my wishes.
You feel how you feel M. I felt more hurt and disappointed because my xw did not have a large pattern of disrespect as other guys on the board have seen. Just think of everything she could have done to make your life difficult when she first moved out.
Say something if you wish, if it helps you gain confidence with addressing future issues, however looking back now it is really not as big of a deal as I thought it was.
