Just because they are our ex's doesn't mean that they can't be decent people. They probably were fairly decent or for those of us who were married a long time and built a life together - we wouldn't have.
Time passes and we can hope that them being a jerk takes effort.
Just don't tell my own ex I said that
And I do some ex-spouses can be jerks with little or no effort.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells