Hey RD! Really glad to see an update from you my friend!! I haven't posted for a while myself, but I do occasionally read along and will post an update soon. I'm so glad to hear that life is going well for you - and that the kids are thriving and you have a good relationship with your lady friend. I agree with Gordie that success comes in many forms and ultimately how our lives unfold through this (unasked for) journey is up to us.
Actually, what it can do is really stock up our toolbox and we emerge pretty resilient, grounded and grateful people. My heart aches to read about your ex though. I recall reading once that if you feel you are in some pain, it would be worse to be the MLCer. And in your situation that is so true - to have lost your security, kids, to be beaten. We would never want this for ourselves and it just shows how lost people can become. And it is a hard road back from there - not everyone takes that turn.
Anyway, just like us - she can only 'do' for herself. And I know you will be kind RD, whatever her choices. For anyone who doesn't know RD, he is the online friend who 'sat' with me the night my divorce papers came through - a kindness I shan't forget. Be well RD and enjoy the many blessings life has to offer. Xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
