Just a couple of things to add, that might be important

Originally Posted by Sandi2
IMHO, it's part of the painful work she has to do. She has to overcome her pride, in order to feel remorse.


Her stubborn pride is/will be a huge issue. She's always had a problem with it. Even S13 regularly comments how frustrated he gets with her as she never admits she was wrong or says sorry easily.

Originally Posted by Sandi2
it sounds as if she needs professional therapy considering her XH previous track record.


Her father died before I met her and she was very close to her mother. Unfortunately she died suddenly about 6 years ago and it really hit her hard. She really never seemed to heal from it and didn't go to any kind of therapy.

LBH 47 WW 47, M 15 T 18
D 11 S 14
BD, I moved out (duped) Jan 18
3 yr EA with ex-H discovered: Feb 18
I moved back in: Aug 18 (against her wishes)
...No R No M/C, continued limbo, dropping the rope!