I get it

[Gerda]

Ah, oui, Babe, la crise d'adolescence, c'est vrai, and c'est insupportable!

J'ai chez moi cette crise avec mon mari et aussi avec mon fils. But my son is able to shift out of it, unlike my H.

And yes, my H, like yours and probably most spouses around here, had trauma growing up. He left his country and loving extended family as a very young child, and then grew up very isolated as a latch key kid with alcoholic, abusive father and a mom who did not protect him. I can still see how his dad's continued cruelty destroys him. Before MLC, his whole goal in life was to be a good father to his son and heal those wounds. Now I think he is causing wounds just as bad to his own son.

The thing is, I had real trauma growing up too.And I did not have God in my life until fairly recently. There is something so fragile about our spouses.