I am not doing this as a retaliation for her BF. Here is what I am upset about:
- she brazenly ignored our agreement and offered no apology or even acknowledgment that she did this - as the father, I feel disrespected and my feelings are on par with hers when it comes to the kids - she's had no problems calling me out when I didn't take her feelings into account. I am holding her to the same standard - introducing someone to the kids lives in the 'beginning' stages is either a clean lie or she has bad judgment. this has consequences on the kids and I don't want that to slide - reinforcing the fact that when it comes to the kids, I am on par with her and not anyone else
Some other stuff:
- expressing my feelings on having to take on the burden of doing the separation agreement and divorce when clearly she should've had follow-through on it since she was the one who decided to end it all. - She's clearly moved on and has been dating, so why not finalize all the legal business to bring it to a close? - I've made the process amicable, transparent, and open without any acknowledgment from her. she even accused me of not wanting to see 'surprises' in the agreement. I find that highly disrespectful considering I've gone to great lengths to make sure it's been very honest and straight forward - Her dragging her a$$ on the agreement when we are basically on the same page with the terms.
I feel like my amicability is just still NGS behavior on these issues. Remember J when you helped your ex move out to her place and then felt rotten about it later? I am kinda feeling the same way. I feel like my good nature is being taken advantage of - I need to put a stop to that.
Anyways, some of it does feel like wresting control back but also clearly communicating to her that she's not meeting the standards she's expecting from me. If I let this stuff slide, what does that make me look like?
No one is going to stand up for me but me. I've made all of this so easy on her and I don't feel good about it. Why should I continue eating more $hit sandwiches?
I did re-read the draft of the message and I do need to rework some of the language. But I am also wondering if I need to do this face-to-face rather than an email.
