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[Jac12]

I'd love some advice team,

My W is starting her IC tomorrow night so that's a really good thing.

This was her suggestion for our sons bday weekend:

She comes by after work at 5:30 and we have dinner with our son and maybe whip out to Party City to pick up some bday stuff. After he goes to bed, we hang out for a bit and she stays the night (if that was ok with me). The assumption is that she would stay in the other bedroom.

Saturday morning I go into work for an hour at 9am (I moved a lesson so she could see the counselor tomorrow as it was a last minute cancellation that she was taking) and she'll be with son. When I get home we can go shopping. In the evening we would have dinner and she would stay over again.

Sunday we go to her parents for his bday party.

Now - I do have plans for Saturday night with a friend just to have a drink or two somewhere. I was anticipating that she would be with our son this weekend as it's her weekend with him. I assume I should just tell her that I was anticipating her being with our son so I have plans Saturday night? I can't make it this easy for her as I still have no idea what her intentions are or what the hell has been happening with her for the past two months. At the same time I know her best, and I do feel like if the road back is a little easier she's more likely to want to work at things. But maybe I'm wrong...

I'm finding it difficult to hold my ground although I know I can be steady in her presence and if she stays over I will not be sleeping with her. I won't do that until she tells me she wants to work on our marriage and starts showing that. But maybe I need to be tougher?