So, as I have had time to process this, I've gotten more upset and angry with how this whole thing went down. I am not going to go meet him right now until I'm more emotionally grounded.
I've just drafted an email to her about all this bull$hit and I am not going to lie down and let myself be disrespected. She needs to up her co-parenting game and not go against something we explicitly agreed upon. I am tempted to put my email here, but if she google searches it, she'll come right here. So, for now, I'll let it be. I am sleeping on the draft tonight and will re-read it tomorrow again and see if i need to change anything.
I am not going to let anything slide anymore. I've been way more accommodating and amicable about a lot of things now. I am not going to minimize how I feel and she deserves to know it straight up. Heck, she told me that was one of the reasons why she left me because I wasn't open. Well, now she gets what she is asking for.