Just don't know how we can if she is still talking to the other guy and when I "bored" her, she just left me in a middle of a date to be with him. The next day she was apologetic and kissing butt of no divorce.
Your whole sitch is a mess, and a different kind of mess b/c of your extramarital activities.
Normally I'd say you need to get angry and enforce your boundary of not sharing your W with another person. You probably need to come clean in MC and figure out a path forward. Your W disrespected you by having some OM pick her up when she was out with you, but you guys don't have clean boundaries and communication is so mixed. You thought it was OK for you to open up the marriage so this is a mess! Sorry man! Get into the MC and say what you're saying here as nicely as you can. Don't attack, own your stuff, and don't try to railroad your W.
Therapy is not magic, and just b/c your W isn't telling the therapist everything doesn't mean much. You can rub her nose in it but if she's not ready to own her stuff then it does zero good.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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