Making sense of nightmares

[rexgm]

They think they got their woman so they quit.

I think this applies to people who were doing things wanting something in return. If you give a gift not because its what you like to do, but are trying to earn brownie pts to get you to your end goal, then ofcourse once that goal is reached you are going to back off on this. Thats why I believe when you do something for the opposite sex you need to ask yourself, are you doing it because you truly want to do it no matter what the outcome may be, or are you doing it to try and get a certain response. Example would be, if you buy a lady a drink are you buying it hoping that she will want to talk to you or you couldnt care less if she wants to talk to you, you just feel like buying someone a drink. When you look for the reasons why you are doing something, if you are doing it truly for yourself you are more likely to keep doing it, because it is really a part of who you are and your personality.

Juju,

You seem to me to be a people pleaser. Instead of telling someone how you feel, you tend to say things that keep the mood happy and doesnt create conflicts. Like Don said instead of ending it, just have a real conversation with him about how you feel. My ex was a people pleaser and I had no idea i was even near a BD. But instead of having a real conversation with me, she chose to pretend everything was fine, but let it fester when I was away and she ended up starting an emotional attachment with someone else.

Rex