Anthony, here is mtb1981's first thread. His sitch reminds me a bit of yours except he didn't get caught up in his wife's insanity the way you have.

I think you can get some inspiration and guidance from reading his threads:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2775271&page=1

P.S. You should feel honored to have sandi responding to your thread! Listen to her wise words closely.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018