Again I am not religious, but I will never understand how having an open, healthy, exciting sex life can be frowned upon? I hope you are able to work your way through it.
YES. I have typed, deleted, retyped and deleted so many comments on this subject in this thread and others. I'm torn between saying what I think about this and concerned that I may be imposing my own beliefs on others. But what the heck it's just my opinion and people can take it or leave it. I used to be very religious. I attended services in several Christian denominations (Catholic, Baptist, Methodist). I was a moderator on a large Christian forum. I read the Bible cover-to-cover and read most of it many times, especially the New Testament. BD made me do some really hardcore soul-searching and now I would say I'm more "spiritual" than religious. It's hard to describe but if any of you are familiar with the ontological argument (that roughly says if we can all agree that God is a perfect and pure entity full of love with no malice or anger and hatred then logically he must exist) that's how I view God. Would a pure and loving God care whether some piece of paper says we are married, or would he just want us to love each other unconditionally? Would he frown on me and my girlfriend loving each other and having an active sex life while not being married, but approve of my coworker and his wife who have been married 40 years and can't hardly stand to be in the same room, and have sex once or twice a year if they are drunk enough? Those are questions for each of us to decide, but I will say that since letting go of my traditional religious views I enjoy life so much more now, and without guilt.
