Here is a good question for the spouse that is wanting to leave I thought of this morning. Are they running towards something or someone or are they running away from something or someone? The sooner you can assess this accurately the sooner you know how final the inevitable outcome will be.
At this point, and I could be wrong, but I think my H reasons for wanting to run away (he hasn’t gone anywhere yet) is to run away from something.
I think he has also romanticized what his life will be like when he’s single. I think he’s imagining what it will be like when he meets “the woman for him”! He’s not currently involved in an affair (to my knowledge and no signs point to that). I think he looks forward to life after our M ends. I think he believes he will feel better once it’s over.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
