J- your reading is just too much! I absolutely appreciate the fact you have studied to try not to make the same mistakes again. But why in God's name does the man have to be the initiator and creator of all dates? Why should he always be leading. If there is something I would like to do, I make the date with M. I've made dates. I have initiated them. He leads sometimes, I lead sometimes. Now blunt laziness of never making dates? I dated a guy like that. I don't like it. Or one who says "whatever you want" every time. Or one like Juju's who says you should do something some time and never makes it.
Ju,
I think I have said it before. The simple fact that the both of you don't believe in cheating and want a LTR does not make you right for eachother. In that case, I am sure there are many people that are right for eachother. There are men who want those things while being able to communicate, show respect and love.
As far as communication. I feel you might avoid it because you think you might be wrong to feel the way you do. I get it, because I never communicated for those very reasons. But you aren't wrong or petty in feeling as you do. You are only going to build up resentment. and that will blow up in both your faces.
Force his hand. He says I would like to make dinner for you and S this weekend. You say "We would love that, what day and time, we will be there!"
Ju, aside from him wanting long term commitment and not being the type to cheat, what do you actually like him him? You have felt as if he wasn't too respectful to your son. You like being active, he doesn't. He makes negative comments about things that make you happy.....
I'm just trying to figure out if there is anything there worth saving before you become too resentful or get in too deep. ANd if there is something worth saving, you need to speak up and stop worrying if you are "wrong" to be feeling as if you do. Because you aren't.
