Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 6)

[Bo562]

I’ll comment on LH’s and AS’ posts later, but in the meantime, some thoughts from meeting with LMFT this afternoon:

Bird-nesting? He says it’s easier for the kids, not so for the parents.

He says that if we don’t agree, we can come up with 2 residences.

What he would do is we would do a week at a time—not 2 / 2 / 3, or every other weekend and Tu / Thurs.

Threats? Tell her that I won’t negotiate that way.

His sense: parenting plan should come after separation / divorce. Suggestion: we work with a mediator, not a lawyer

Say: “That’s something that I can’t agree with; let’s work with a mediator”

Say / mindset: “That’s not something I’m willing to work out right now” until we get further along the process (to finalize separation / divorce)

A final consideration from him: What’s best is what meets the needs of ‘everyone’—hers, mine, kids