Thanks Neffer. My H is guilty of selfishness for sure. There is also still the question of whether his “roommate” is an OW or not. Even if they are not together, I still see her in that light. The fact is...he is living with a woman and her two teenagers and not his wife and his own children. And everything he has told me about her tells me he sees her as a “damsel in distress” and given what he has said about the father of her children, my H would look like a knight in shining armour to her...especially if he has told her a bunch of lies about himself and our marriage. It is strange though... I’m not jealous of her in the least. If she is an OW, I know my H is just using her to escape his life and himself.
My H and I were supposed to spend today (Family Day in Canada) with our kids. Predictably he bailed. Says he has the flu. Whether he does or not, who knows. Honestly, I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend the day with him anyway so I wasn’t disappointed. I wasn’t anything TBH. I had zero expectations as I had predicted he woudn’t follow through anyway. A few months ago, I would have been crushed but TBH, I’m starting to see my H the way a lot of other people see him. A man who blew up his family and their finances to try to relive his 20s. Sad.
