Hey DV - good points. Very hard to take stock of someone on just one meeting, but I am aiming for that for sure. The only thing I want to convey to him is that I expect him to treat my kids with kindness, generosity, and respect. The purpose is not to put the fear of god in him, which is stupid bravado and wouldn't work anyways. I know that exW will expect him to behave in a specific way with the kids, but I believe that he needs to know from me as well. I am not a backseat parent and I expect people to treat my kids well. And if I have an issue, I will be coming at him directly, not through exW.
That's all really I need to tell him, and also let them know that this isn't going to be some Kumbaya type situation where we all hangout together and have a backyard bbq.
Thanks Nef - that's exactly what I needed to hear. I know myself and what I want for my kids and I will bring that same Maika energy to this - civil, straight forward, polite, and firm. Not trying to do some macho bull$hit.
