Ugh. That s#cks Maika. I haven’t bothered talking about this with my WAH. It is pointless IMO. He hasn’t honoured any of the promises he made to me in the past so why would I expect him to now? My kids have met lots of his “friends”. At the time, it was sold to me as people he knew with kids their age that they could play with. We’ve moved to a different city now so I will never know if that is the case or not. I’ve stopped caring. It IS amazing how they think though. On BD#1, my H actually talked about buying side-by-side townhouses so our kids could just go back and forth. I thought he had lost his mind.
Regarding meeting the OM... remember... he may, in actuality, be a good guy [let’s hope for the sake of your kids]. I’m sure your WAW has told him she was in a bad marriage that was over ages ago or something along those lines. I am sure if my WAH has someone, he has told her the same thing. They can’t actually be honest. Who would want to date them if they were?
Anyway...when you meet him, I would be less focused on telling him your expectations and more focused on figuring out what kind of a person he is. What kind of expectations are you planning on laying out for him? Anything different than what your WAW would have for him interacting with your kids? I get that you have expectations, of course, but I’m not sure telling him what those are will necessarily ensure they are followed. I think it would come across as controlling and angry. IDK...these are just my thoughts...I have not been through this yet so I would appreciate others’ opinions who have been through it. (((HUGS)))
