Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

So ya, not much more has happened since, I was scheduled to have V-Day off and today as well but cancelled those plans and instead went to work. The W texted me V-Day morning when she got home from work saying "I thought you had the day off" to which I responded "I did, but I cancelled it"

This may have come off to her like punishment so be careful with that. Detachment isn't about being cold/ mean/ vindictive.

It wasn't meant to be cold or anything, she said she didn't want to do valentines day even though we had discussed plans a while ago, so I wasn't going to take the day off and just sit around the house feeling miserable. Instead I chose to work and keep my pto for a later day.

I told her I needed some money to put gas in the car, I had driven the truck last week which ate threw my budget for the 2 weeks.

If there is any way to eliminate the need for convos like this then do it, because this sounds really needy, like you are asking mom for gas money. I understand your financial position is tight right now and she makes more? If she owes you money then work out some kind of weekly stipend instead of asking her like this.

It's the way our budget is set up, I'm deposited money to get me through driving the car to and from work, the rest is into a separate account for bills. But this week I had to drive the truck and it ate through my budget, she needed the car to go up north, and gets more money deposited than me to handle her gas, plus food for the house. I make more, but limit my funds to bills (into a separate account), and my travel (into my account) for work. While she handles some bills (into the same separate account) and her travel and groceries (into her account). Normally I don't have a problem with my budget for the week, in fact it's typically the other way around were I'm giving her money for things.

She finally comes in to take a shower. When she got out, she stood there by the door giving me a all sexy look. I said "What?" she responds with "You know what and bites her lip" I think you guys can see where this led to..... then we took another shower and she said get some sleep and went to the guest room. And that was that....

That's fine, just don't have any expectations that it means anything because it doesn't. Michele's take on this is it's OK to do it if you can without expectations, but if it's really messing with your head then put an end to it.

Ya I don't have any expectations, or even think that there is any meaning to it.