So here is a good question: As of now, she's not contributing to our marital home. I'm self employed and she makes 3x what I make (I do well and can handle things on my own). She has said she doesn't think she should be paying half our our mortgage/taxes bc she has to pay for her own place and if she did pay and couldn't afford it she would be resentful towards me. (most of her income is in bonuses so if they don't pan out she can't afford the luxury condo she's in now AND pay support to me).
At what point do I bring up this conversation again? I kind of feel like laying low is the best strategy right now as she experiences this life but I can't drag this on forever. I am restructuring my business so I can be at home in the evenings for my son and I will likely take a financial hit as I get things going again.
Get it resolved ASAP. DO NOT roll over expecting it'll earn you any brownie points with her, it won't. In fact she'll likely see you as being a weak pushover if you do nothing. She'll respect you even less.
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"I woke with happiness and sadness this morning. I just want to apologize to how I've treated you and "our son" these past few months"
How do I respond???
As Steve said, don't respond. I would question her motives for saying this, she may be trying to soften you up for the financial settlement. Even if she did mean it, it was likely just a brief outburst after which she went right back to being a WAS.
