Friday I was able to confirm she was with OM. I called her out an told her everything she had been saying to me was a lie and I was moving out. NC yesterday and she had a gf call me crying saying should would do anything, what would it take? I said nothing I was done, I want space and peace for our family. Her requests were desperation obviously because I will not engage with her at all. She pleaded through her gf and said she would do anything which turned into agreeing to sign an agreement. Then a short time later turned to aggression via text.
I've said this before but a heroin addict can be fully repentant and ready to go to rehab and do anything to make things right immediately after their they've had a hit. But then a few hours later all that fancy talk proves to be just hot air after all as they become completely consumed with getting the next hit. When I see these situations where a WAS has been caught and is immediately repentant that's what it always makes me think of. Sure she'll agree to anything right now, but can she go a day or week or month without this OM or a new one? That's the real question. I would suggest you take a "wait and see" attitude. Just maintain your distance, don't look for any concessions, don't make any demands. Then if a month or two or three passes and she's still not seeing OM and is still repentant and asking what to do to turn things around, THEN have that discussion.
