Wow, how crazy of you to think it might be a text from the OM. It's almost as if your W dropped a bomb on you and has been seeing another man for years. I mean, if that had happened, I'd imagine there'd be some raw emotions and zero trust.
Do you ever try being honest with her? She's trying to keep you in line with that "great way to start a vacation" line.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.