A familiar story with questions NINE

[RR17]

I'm going to say this for the people that are reading this and earlier in their sitches.

If your plan to get your wife back is to “convince her” to change her mind or to “earn” her love with changes in yourself, there is a frustrating and futile road ahead of you.

If you think this is just my opinion due to my recent personal experience, I trust that one day you will agree with me.
I'm not saying you shouldn't make the changes. Become the man you wish to be regardless.

Patience is important but not at the expense of your own heart. Have a plan B if your plan A is to show her how your 180s are sticking and you are a changed man. If you don't, you will grow to have expectations. You will, even if you tell yourself not to. Time and a positive response have a way of doing this to you. Have a plan "B". Timing is everything and her timing may not synchronize with your plan "A".

My plan "B" which I have instated before with results, but now plan to turn up the efforts. I'm not sure exactly how but I will, because it's the only thing I can control.
I will also say that "playing hard to get" simply to "mind control", though tempting is ultimately disappointing.

My plan B is to make her pursue me. Before I send a text or have a conversation I will ask myself "does this support my goal".
I will become an even more detached, man of mystery. This should be exciting.