Wife wanted to talk about the D one day, I told her "I understand this is what you want, and I won't stand in your way, but it is not what I want and I will not talk about it"
To which she responding, "I want us to work together on this" and this is where my pursuit came in place "I responded so you want us to work together on D, but not the root problem" ***FACEPALM***
First part was perfect. Second part, next time just say "if you need something from me then let me know and I will provide it." Stick to business.
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So ya, not much more has happened since, I was scheduled to have V-Day off and today as well but cancelled those plans and instead went to work. The W texted me V-Day morning when she got home from work saying "I thought you had the day off" to which I responded "I did, but I cancelled it"
This may have come off to her like punishment so be careful with that. Detachment isn't about being cold/ mean/ vindictive.
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I told her I needed some money to put gas in the car, I had driven the truck last week which ate threw my budget for the 2 weeks.
If there is any way to eliminate the need for convos like this then do it, because this sounds really needy, like you are asking mom for gas money. I understand your financial position is tight right now and she makes more? If she owes you money then work out some kind of weekly stipend instead of asking her like this.
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She finally comes in to take a shower. When she got out, she stood there by the door giving me a all sexy look. I said "What?" she responds with "You know what and bites her lip" I think you guys can see where this led to..... then we took another shower and she said get some sleep and went to the guest room. And that was that....
That's fine, just don't have any expectations that it means anything because it doesn't. Michele's take on this is it's OK to do it if you can without expectations, but if it's really messing with your head then put an end to it.
