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[Jac12]

Jac... you can’t worry about what your w is thinking or feeling right now. There is no doubt that she isn’t happy and she is trying to figure out why. I’m sure the partying is starting to get a bit old. She is likely trying to come to terms with her dad’s illness and his inevitable passing. I think you are doing really well. Keep doing what you are doing. Live your life for you and your son...maintain a positive R with your w but don’t pursue. She needs time and space to figure things out and if you chase her, she will become more cemented in her position. I know how hard this is but there is no short cut. Have faith that you are doing the right thing. Your w’s stubbornness may prevent her from reaching out initially but if she truly decides she made a mistake and wants to return, she will let you know. It is very hard not to do something to try and expedite the process but trust everyone on here, sometimes the absolute best thing to do is to do nothing. (((HUGS)))

Thank you Deja. I'm doing what I can to detach and give her space to figure herself out. Some days are good, other days I break down (just in my own home, never in front of her).

I realize it's still very early in the process but the idea of continuing like this [censored]. I guess this is why the GAL is so important (and I am keeping busy seeing friends). It does help but I wish I could do more to help my W but I realize she doesn't want that from me right now.