I suppose the quick answer to my situation now is patience, patience, patience. I’m still standing but I suppose from afar, no more F2F contact with WW just text messages regarding logistic issues and the boys. To be honest my life has changed and believe it or not for the better in many ways, I’m more focused on the boys and I have ultimate control over everything we do and the A is a distant memory and more of a distraction. WW has twice sent me the petition for D and twice I’ve ignored it hoping that with time the addiction will subside, if not so be it.
The time I’ve been given hasn’t been wasted, I’m deeply involved with self-improvement and researching the whole attitude changes that’s manifested between modern men and women and how this can relate to MR, it’s truly eye opening and fascinating at the same time! This is where DB has really helped, the principles of working on ourselves whilst detaching and using “smart” contact when needed is paramount to get through these very difficult times. One of the biggest realisations I’ve had is that of focus and where that needs to be and guess what it’s not on the A or the LO/AP.
Initially I was all about show her this and show her that but with time and great guidance it’s now show the world this and show the world that, I’m better for it and so are my boys!
“Standing” for your MR for me might be the wrong word as this signifies no movement, let’s not stand still but move forward.
Stay strong all and catch up in another 6-months’ time.
Take Care
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
