"I see many solutions to our problems, but if this what will make you happy then I will give it to you."
"I'll need to think about that."
"Send your proposal to me and I'll have my lawyer review it".
When your W wants to talk about the divorce stuff, just tell her to let her know when she has a proposal and youll let your lawyer review it. That way you aren't shying away, but there's not too much convo.
Whatever happens, don't take the sex thing as any big sign. She probably is doing it to keep your attached to her. My W did that and I was all over the bait a year ago. Now everytime we have sex the thought of it being meaningless, passionless, or our last time is ever present. It makes me not want to have sex at all. There's been lots of discussion about the LBS having sex with the WAS. Usually it's not good IMO, b/c the LBS creates hopes and expectations that are working against him/her. I don't think it's advisable to have that casual sex.
Ya, I still need to work on handling that when she brings it up. As for the sex, I am not reading into it at all (It was the first time in over 3 weeks). It was just a little odd with the attitude she had towards, then a hour later her mood completely shifted. Honestly, I'll say it. It helps ease my mind that she is still seeking it from me, versus seeking it elsewhere. I had the thought for a bit that there had to be someone else, but I know there's not and that it helps keep that thought from going through my head. Especially since I still want to work things out. But I know that's not up to me to decide, and I am not expecting it.
M(32) W(30) Together 12yrs Married 2yrs ILYBNILWY 11/23/18 EA Discovered 3/20/19
In House separation 11/26/18 - 11/29/18 & 1/10/19-3/20/19 W Moved out 3/20/19 M Moved out 5/31/19 W Filed for D 3/3/2020
