I don't blame you for trying. I kinda got the feel from the Valenttines Day post that you are clearly in the friend zone.
I think you have two choices. 1. Accept the relationship for what it is and have zero expectations that it will ever change or 2. Directly tell her what you need to continue this relationship and if she is unable give you what you need that you file for divorce and pursue it elsewhere.
These things rarely change without time and space. Too many walls have been constructed over the years.
