A familiar story with questions NINE

[RR17]

So things took a turn this morning. I broke all sorts of DBing rules.

So House is empty except for the two of us. I have made the second french press of coffee for the two of us. I decided it is prime to do what I have been talking about since December and try to initiate.

W gets this all hurt puppy dog face and says "I can't". Well, I hate these F-ing external locus type answers and I respond that "Don't you mean, I won't?" and I went into the whole "what do you have to lose?" "Aren't you happy about a lot of the change that has happened between us?" "What if both tried, just to see. What is the risk".
Well after several "I'm just not in a place...." BS She went on to say that she wasn't a "tryer".

The conversation went on for about 40 min and W looking for reasons to get angry (which I skillfully avoided) so that she could walk out of the uncomfortable conversation. Dismissive behavior is another sensitive point for me.
I asked where she thought this was going with her decisions. She said she never considered. I asked if she ever considered my position and where this leaves me? She said that she didn't spend all her time contemplating things the way I do. I responded that considering another person's perspective wasn't an extraordinary feat. Anyway.

I know, I know. DBers don't engage in talks about the future. I will have to cool off before I decide how to proceed. Not the best time to make rash decisions.