Even if she moves in with OM it will be a wake up call. You're putting all the pressure on some scumbag who more than likely is now getting in deeper than he ever intended. You remove yourself from the situation, and her negative feelings for you will be tested.
Don't let your feelings and fears stop you from doing what is right. Stay calm and in control at all times, it's very hard to do.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.