My Story Pt 2

[Manta]

Not on Valentines weekend LH19, when she is with AP in her country. I know how she is and how she thinks.

It's for HER benefit only. If she wants to divorce me, then I can't stop her. I don't want to divorce, I do love her, however, if we do, it won't be in her country. This isn't just a simple breakup.

My solicitor, in the country we live in contacted her last October in regards to separation. She hasn't responded yet.

I know this call is only for her benefit, as she will probably try and sweet talk me into proceeding with Divorce in her Country, make it sound more favorable, as then her AP, family etc can all take care of her Divorce business and it's much more controllable from her POV. She is very lazy and always expects others to clean up her mess. Not this time.

That's not fair on me. She caused this situation. Why should I have to fly to her country, trying to understand a different language and have to go through proceedings, with very little support, because of what she caused? Her AP is probably pressuring her now and it's causing them distress and anxiety. Good! I hope it does. I hope the Affair fog will start lifting and it will cause rifts and arguments between them.

We were 4 months NC. She is a VERY Selfish woman, sometimes I think she's a sociopath, with very little empathy for others, or what her actions have caused.

She has taken no accountability for what she has done or caused me. She cheated, got caught, ran away like a coward. She refused R, or MC and didn't want to talk to me for months. All of a sudden she wants to "speak like adults" even though she messaged me on Whatsapp about wanting a divorce back in September. Very Adult!

Silence is powerful. I'm in no rush.I'm GAL, followings Sandi's rules, detached and for the first time in months, I'm feeling more like my old self again. If she wants to talk legal/financials/separation, she can speak with my solicitor. If she wants to R, then she will make it clear with time.