You did a kind thing with the gift cards; she just can’t handle it. Imagine her guilt and stress, the inner turmoil. So she lashes out again. She justifies her position and warps things to her view.
Be gentle on yourself. So you got roped in a little, get up, dust off, and let it go.
I understand the desire to want to help. However, she does need to learn the consequences for her spending and lifestyle, to grow up.
Keeping working on detachment and find indifference, it is so worth the effort. And just so you know, you can still care and love.
For now, you should probably follow her request and stop sending her gifts. Give her plenty of space and time.
Yep, live and learn, we all do it.
You are doing a fine job of things Hamburg.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
