Wow. J9 the philosopher. Who hit it out of the park with that one simple line.
I do presentations to sales people from time to time and one dynamic that I emphasize is that there are two types. The hunter and the farmer. A hunter will put in the effort and go out and land new accounts and then move on and get some other new accounts. A farmer will work hard on keeping the book of business that they have happy, nurturing it and trying to keep the standard order flow.
In business, because there is always churn in customers, farmers may prosper for a while but it's the hunters who earn the bonuses.
Relationships are different. You need a partner who takes an interest, who makes an effort to keep the soil fertilized. Men and women both get complacent when they feel that they've "won". And in my opinion that is one of the key things that can cause relationships to grow stale. I was married for nearly 30 years. And yes, she did run off chasing after her boyfriend who she seems to still not have caught. In the Disney version of my memories, each and every day I was amazed that she was there and loved me and I made an effort to appreciate that. The actual reality was undoubtedly more sedate.
BUT - not all relationships involve woodland creatures doing the housekeeping. The sparrows still haven't figured out how to properly fold the napkins here. We accept our partners for the people that they show themselves to be if that person is acceptable to us. JuJuB - if your new guy isn't showing a lot of imagination in being romantic, well, that's who he is. You need to decide if he is a good partner otherwise. Is there reciprocity? Is there respect? Are you willing to forgo the flowers and romance in exchange for (presumed) reliability and consistency?
Just my own opinion.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
