13 years and 2 kids pt. 5

[Hurt213]

LH,

Thanks for the warning, and I am not going to be spending time with my ex like this on a monthly basis by any means, however it was time, and it felt right to do it for the kids, and it went really well, no arguments, no discussions, just a nice day with the most important thing in the world as our focus, the kids.

For people reading my "adventure", I can say, something that really made me see my former companion and her choices for what they were was something that became clear to me, in a moment were I wasn't even searching for it.
Basically I had a phone, that was filled with pictures of us as a family, and those pictures, are of great value to me, despite the fact that the family is no longer intact. So I was setting up an online photo bank, so the kids can have the pictures when they get older. I didn't want them on my phone anymore, and part of me "releasing" myself, was to get this sorted.

The strangest thing happened, because I was going through the pictures, and I ended up at a date where we went to a theme park a couple of months before the "im not in love with you and we should end it" talk. I saw pictures of a family, joy, happiness, smiles that were really genuine, and just overall it reminded me, that her saying how unhappy she has been for the past 6 years and nothing had been good in our relationship, were based on something else.

I realized, that this most likely was never about her unhappiness on a scale that large, that it was not someting that could be worked out, and there are a multitude of pictures from family outings, that back that up right up until she was very suddenly done with everything. Fact of the matter is that she simply just chose screw another man, and that was her decision to make, and that made it so easy for me to say "nah, im good over here, enjoy life over there".

I spent countless nights thinking of how things went so wrong, and how I should had been something more. There are of course a multitude of things that could had been better, but thats how relationships evolve and progress, together as two with communication as the tool. Realizing that she took the first exit on the highway when it presented itself in the form of something new, was just the kick I needed to be where I am today.

Pictures are sorted, phone is empty, ready for new memories. And the digital albums are backed up and will be there for my kids when they want to see them.

Life is good these days .