Originally Posted by Kwandoku
Hurt and LH, thanks for the words of wisdom and tough love.

I really needed them.

Truth is, I think I'm still in shock. Right when I feel like I'm ready to cut things off and move on I get hit back right in the feels.

All that history we had.... gone.

One moment I'm so ready to move on completely and the next I want to scale right back down to a trial separation.

It was particularly hard coming back to the house tonight to find her side of the bedside cleared out and also her side of the bathroom. I don't think I'll be able to stay in this house after it's all over. Too many memories.

LH, good reminder. All I can do is stipulate what I want and need. I'll re-read the notes on validating as well.

I will be strong for myself and you guys. Thanks again.





What you’re going through right now is going to be one of the hardest things you’ve ever gone through. Trust me I know. You’re going to be on a roller coaster of emotions. One day you’ll think you’re detached and the next day you’ll want to pursue here. It’s hard, you love your W. Don’t beat yourself up or be too hard on yourself for your mixed emotions.

You’ve received some excellent advise, try to listen to what everyone said. But take one day at a time. Sending hugs your way!


Original BD: 10/26/2017
PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017
Second BD: 09/15/2018
Currently: IHS
M: 42 H: 45
S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together