Acceptance / Discipline / DB / LRT / NC / Divorce

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Hey all, I just wanted to check in. I've accepted my marriage is over. I am hoping to have a healthy, positive co-parenting relationship and provide the best possible life for D4. It's sad but I know I tried my best. I made mistakes of course. But W never wanted to work on the marriage, never committed to it since leaving June 2017. She still takes no accountability and continues to put herself in a victim state, relying on others and making bad decisions. She has no drive and that is not what I'm attracted to. I want a high class / high quality life and she is more of a netflix and chill person. So we are different. It was a 10 year relationship. Its sad but that ship has sailed. Im closing the door. We have mediation again 2/26. I am no longer going to enable. We tentatively agreed to put D4 in private kindergarten since I may be moving I cant push for public in the quality school district Im in. That being said I am not going to pay 100%. I may offer to pay 75% of the $8k kindergarten.

This separation was long as F. It included hundreds of sleepless nights for me. But also lots of self reflection feeling fears and doing them anyway, and finding myself. Through this journey I have become self aware, emotionally intelligent, stronger, more confident and a 10x better man. This is what DB is about and this amazing community is has helped me and so many others. Unfortunately, it didn't save my marriage. But more importantly it did set me up for an incredible future and life. I know I will impact hundreds or thousands of people. And I can not allow one woman to drag me down.

I recently committed to a new relationship with a woman who is ironically a psychologist, she's extremely successful with multiple practices, attractive, strong, independent and also a bit of a bad as*. She's one of the most desired women in the city which I live closest to. I feel very grateful and hopeful for this new relationship. The communication and connection is incredible. It feels right, I believe in the law of attraction and I have been visualizing a relationship with a woman like her. You get what you put out, your words and thoughts have power, your self identity is key. Confident attracts confident, needy attracts needy. I know the journey many of you are [censored] and is so difficult. But I'm telling you if you accept what life hands you, follow DB principles which promote positivity, growth and internal happiness you can use this situation to open doors rather than close them. I may not post here too often but you can follow my journey as I work towards my goals of being a life coach and published author (one of my visualizations is my book on the NY Times best seller list).

My blog is here- https://thecatalystforchangedot.wordpress.com/blog/
I am getting some tremendous feedback on the most recent post. I also started a facebook book to help build people up similar to this forum but with a bit more of a personal touch. It's a private group - Expired Relationships, Divorce, Separation- Opening Doors To Your Best Life

Thank you and cheers to your best life!