Thank you so much everyone! Your input is greatly appreciate!!
Grace: yes, D16 is my youngest and the only one left in the nest. I often go back to " when i was their age, how was i, who was i, how was my chain of thoughts? " you nailed it with " how would it affect her, what is in it for her? " This is on her mind and most importantly, should be in mine. As a mom, her needs are way more important than a move on my part. It is only a couple of years away and summer will eventually come wich will allow more road trips. maybe i have a case of winter blues.
DejaVu: yes, D16 is planning to get her license after the winter. Galling is limited here. No clubs. A couple of restaurant with LCBO license wich close at 8pm. Lol Volunteering as crossed my mind. For the Red cross and the woman shelter ( in a small community next to here ). I will stay put for now. In a couple of weeks, D18 will be coming home for her reading week. April, S20 will graduate from College and will be relocating. D18 will be back for the summer and going back for year 2 of College. It is too soon for me think living this place.
DNJ: A couple of years ago, this daughter was on board to leave. The other one was not. ( this is the promotion Andrew mentioned that i turned down.) This year, The 3 children who have left want me to move but D16 is no longer for it. Lol The funny thing is 2 yrs ago, i had said exactly this. "Watch, when Faith we' ll be done high school, Sarah will be the one with a bf and won' t want to go anymore" . The "why am i here" should not be taken as a depressive state. I meant " why am i in this town? My life has been on hold for a long time. AJM ( old poster of DB and very good friend ) once told me: "no matter where you are, if you do not enrich your life, your life won' t be fulfilled and you will not be happy. No matter where you are! ". This is true. I agree with all you said. Thank you so much! i will stay put.
Sweet Job : my life would be exactly what it is now if i was elsewhere. Lol my daughters life on the other hand would be hard for her. I would go to a different job. I would still drive her around to school, work, new friends etc. My responsabilities would be moving with us in a new home and town. I agree with everyone. It is not the time.
Peacetoday: i appreciate you sharing your situation. I don' t know how many times i heard people say: " you need to think about yourself. Your kids will leave and then what? What will happen to you?" I get upset when i hear it. I find it so selfish. I know what they mean but i also know what all of you are saying.. yes my kids will leave but they are not gone yet. They still need their mom and their home ( safety, comfort, HOME). All i need is a past time, hobby, something for me; not a move.
Andrew: cons: 4++ Pros: 4 Lol.. great score!
My daughters are trying to get me closer to them. They have a guy picked out in North Bay and are trying desperately to introduce us.. lol timming is always wrong. Maybe it is a sign? ( not that he is wrong for me but the time is wrong ) I did talk to her about it and she wants to stay here.she likes it here. She has many fears about leaving. And totally understand that.
Lol. I would not move to sell tacos on the island, i would fear meeting Doodler.. lol Thank you Andrew!! i wish you the best of luck with your oncoming date!
maybe i have a case of winter blues. 