I am late in reading sitch, and admit I don't know the whole story. But, IMO, if you can wait until D16 graduates from high school (assuming she is your youngest?), then I would do that. That's only years, and not a lot of time. Then you can go wherever you want, do whatever you want. It's a sacrifice to bee sure, but that's sometimes needed to give our kids the stability they need. Kids of all ages want to know how anything will affect THEM. If you did want to make a move, I would imagine you will have to have a concrete plan that your D can see the benefits for her. I think that might be a tough sell with a BF in the picture at the age of 16.
