Help needed with wayward wife

[sandi2]

I was considering enforcing another boundary about her returning home each night, because she stayed with 3rd party couple nights already. However I am not sure if that would change anything. I said she has 2 month left to stop affair or to move out.

The act of setting and enforcing boundaries can misunderstood. Your boundaries are about protecting your feelings, self respect, honor, etc. Knowing your core values will help to know where to draw the line.

i was reading about boundaries and asked her not to use our house for affair resources.

What is your plan if she does not honor this ^^^^^^?

I'll give you a few suggestions about boundaries. 1) You are not making a request. 2) Enforcing a boundary is when you do some type of action that has some consequences (no violence) for the WW who dishonored your boundary. 3) If you restate your boundary, it loses effectiveness. 4) Don't announce to your WW that something is your boundary if you don't have the courage to follow through with enforcing it, b/c she will test you to see what you'll do.

I stated that I might live couple more month like this and said she might need to move out.

Just so you'll know in the future, these type of statements are like giving her a free pass for two more months. You have compromised your respect. How can she respect you, when you don't respect yourself more than this? You have to stand firm when dealing with infidelity. Do not tolerate her cheating two months, two days or two hours. The longer she sees you staying with her while she has sex with OM, the less she will want to be your W. Women are designed in such a way that they have to feel respect/admiration for the H in order to feel desire/attraction.