Rd500 update

[rd500]

Thanks Geordie, Btrow, yes i would most definitely call it an affair down , guy was an alcoholic, un employed, bi polar and about 5'4" with tattoos and 80s skinhead haircut and the demeanor of an angry little man. Ex is a slim, good looking person with a degree and an intelligent person. It was a shock to see this guy and a bit embarrassing to be honest. ( Ego , i know) I'm no George Clooney ( far from it) but i suppose each to their own. Her family would have nothing to do with her guy and ex lost the kids over him . I would have bet my house that Ex would never let any person raise a hand to her ( and rightly so) so i was stunned to hear she had been hit by this guy for almost 12 months. I can't stress how stunned i was. So , yes , i would call it a step down.

Peacetoday, i have moved on and i never thought I would. It took me quite to realise it was over and to put it behind me. I think the loss of ' the idea' of Ex was worse than losing Ex. I was far from perfect so i have to accept my part in the demise of the M. These days I do feel sorry for her loss of R with the kids but they have made their choice for now and thats that. Again , DB is the way, whatever you decide re standing or moving forward from the M , the basics are here to read. Its tough and takes time but letting go of expectations and living your life is the key. I read posts on here still and you still see people years later living in their past and suffering from it, as an example , Ex doesn't know about LF, a few years back i would have been going out of my way to make sure Ex saw LF because as attractive as Ex is , LF would have blown her mind , now i wouldn't do anything either way to affect Ex, i just want to live my life and hopefully we will all move forward to happiness again in the best way each of us chooses.

Take care, Rd