Dating after Divorce

[Twofeet]

Andrew,

I am not sure if it is a generational thing or just how someone structures their values. I am 37 and I would be in a similar boat to you. I could not imagine sex with a woman unless we were exclusive and we were committed. I was always raised with relationships being developed on love first sex later. Maybe that makes me old fashioned too. It does concern me that those values will be a hurdle for women in my dating age range.

Yeah this would definately be a hurdle with me. Sex and love are different in my book. Maybe its because i am a libra, maybe not, but I think of sex as more fun, exercise and experimentation between two people. Not necessarily an emotional attachment. If a woman told me that she wanted to wait to have sex until after a committed relationship, I would say thats nice, but let me ask you this. What if I told you I was unemployed and didnt plan on working until I was in a committed relationship. ( its a good example from a book i read) Would you still want to date me also?

Yes I understand what you are saying hence the hurdle. Should I give up on my values because they don't align with the majority of modern society? I think a person has to have their core values/morals/code whatever you want to call it and they should stick to it. For me it helps define who I am, it drives me on my mission through life. If this results in me being single for life? I guess so be it. Some people get through life by being flexible and moving around barriers and others by smashing through them.
The other issue is that my mindset probably works really well for the christian lady who wants to wait till marriage, and I would want to stay away from that. LTR yes marriage no, I am one and done.

Also I don't know much about zodiac signs, so what does it mean for you to be a libra? I see sex being what you describe, but also as a raw emotional connection and expression of love. Nothing I feel like sharing with just anybody.