I woke up to beautiful flowers, candy, and a card.
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Handwritten card? Did it say the right things?
It wasn’t a hand written card. The card was sweet. It basically said - I love you and I always will. Thank you for being my partner and standing by my side. Along those lines. Those were the Hallmark words. He signed it that he still loves me and he always will.
He also sent me a text message this morning saying wishing me a happy valentine’s day.
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I keep going back to the "reward good behavior". Did H go above and beyond? Or is he going through the motions?
How do you both get that "Feeling" back? Is he filling your "Love language buckets"? If so, are you filling his?
I don’t think I would count this as going above and beyond. I don’t know, maybe it is for him. I do appreciate the gesture and called him and thanked him. I do think it was sweet and I wanted him to know that. I think it’s fair to say at least he’s trying in some form because he didn’t have to give me anything.
I’m not sure how we both get the feeling back. The feeling hasn’t left for me (although a lot has been done that’s stressful). My feelings are starting to change but they haven’t changed yet. I think the question is how does he get the feeling back or should I say stay. He’s said at BD that the feeling comes and goes.
I just ordered and received the book The 5 Love Languaes. I’m hoping to learn more about that topic from the book. I love him dearly but prior to BD he wasn’t filing my love tank and I obviously wasn’t filling his.
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Anyway, glad he is showing some type of positive actions. Others here are not so lucky. Count your blessings.
Yeah, I guess I can be thankful for what he’s done today.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
