I guess Im a little confused. Are you planning to go through with mediation? My understanding is that the process requires both parties to come to the table and discuss and agree on terms. If thats not what youre planning, then why agree to it? Is there anything you need to fight for?
I am not going to stop her for what she believes is best - but I also don't plan on helping her file and get the ball rolling.
I didnt say for you to pick up the ball and take care of everything. But if you know that a mediator isnt going to work, then its silly to have her spin her wheels. So I think usually before you go to a mediator, you may want to make sure you are aligned on key issues - some financials and custody and things like that. Sure, you can have her draft a proposal, but that wasnt what I was understanding from your initial post.
